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acowboyking:

I need to talk with some INFP’s out there because they may be the only people that can truly understand what is going on through my head right now.

I feel like a failure and a quitter. I feel like everyone has these expectations for me and I can’t fulfill them. I feel like I let my parent’s down. They probably expected me to be this smart and open person but that’s not me. I don’t think I have ever felt more stupid. I have never been able to open up to anyone.

There’s my little brother, being the son that my parents wanted me to be. Already has a great girl for him. I think that annoys me the most about her. I can’t find a flaw with this girl and I need to find something bad about her. My parents love her and say how great she is. My brother is growing up more and more each day.

And then there is me. I haven’t changed at all. I’m still the little boy scared of life. Still the little boy cut-off from the world up in his room with his headphones in and his computer on. I’m nobody.

Things I quit: basketball, baseball, gymnastics, karate, swimming, tennis, soccer, cross-country, school, potential relationships, etc.

I’m a failure/quitter.

Hi acowboyking!

Found you on the INFP tag.

I tried to write you a pm, but your askbox was messed up. So-

I guess these are just general things,  I mean I don’t know you and stuff…

But - 

One thing you need to do is stop thinking so much about other people. Stop thinking about fulfilling others expectations of you.

What do you want?

What would you regret not having done on your deathbed?

There is no such thing as a perfect person. There is no wrong or right “way to be”. Everyone is different. And people appreciate different things. Failure isn’t bad! Really, don’t think of it as failure. “Failure” is experience, it doesn’t define you. It was just one thing that didn’t work out for you at that time. Maybe it was never your thing, maybe it wasn’t right for you then. It’s good to try things. But do it for your own sake. And don’t take everything too seriously. Baseball is just a sport, it’s supposed to be fun and you’re supposed to get something positive out of it. If you don’t, then try something else, it wasn’t your thing.

Focus on yourself. The past is always the same, but you can change how you think  about it. The future, however, is open. Make it  really YOURS.

You’re always in control of how you see yourself.

Try to be positive. Write a list of what you like about yourself. Focus on that. Accept who you are. Find people who accept you for who you are. Ignore negative opinions from the rest. And most of all, don’t imagine that others think badly of you, I know that’s typically INFP, but really, they might not even, and as I said, if they do, don’t let it define you. Life is never hopeless. Even if you don’t find that person now, doesn’t mean you never will. And maybe you’ll meet someone amazing you connect with and fall for, that’s great. (But don’t expect too much. A lot of times it doesn’t work out, but again, don’t see it as failure, don’t think that there’s somethng wrong with you and that it’s all your fault, see it as experience.)

Try something you would’t normally do. See how you like it. Talk to someone you wouldn’t normally talk to. 

Remember that people in highschool age aren’t grown up yet, a lot of them are immature and insecure.

It gets better ;-P

And I know, failing your OWN expectations is a real blow to your self esteem. If you really want to succeed, try harder and don’t give up. Goals often change over time. That’s not a sigh of weak character, it’s because you change. 

Don’t try to be normal. Be yourself. You’re the only one who can. 

It means so much more when people like you for you.

Some quotes: “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind”, and 

"It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you’ve lived so cautiously, that you might as well not have lived at all." -J.K. Rowling

I didn’t mean to sound like a besserwisser, these are things that I try to remind myself of =)

I hope you found something useful in my ramblings ^_^

Have a great day!

(Source: notapricklypear)

Obsessed and Proud of It: It's okay if you don't think I'm beautiful. 

randomlancila:

You call me fat. Okay, well…first of all, that’s pretty obvious. Second of all, you say that like it’s a bad thing. Like it’s an insult. And that ship sailed long ago. Fat is not on my list of ‘bad things people can be’. Hell, my favorite piece of jewelry is a necklace that says fat. Pass me a cupcake!

You say I’m not beautiful. That’s okay too. Beauty is subjective. EverybodyHAS beauty, but not everyone is going to be beautiful to someone else. That in itself is beautiful. The fact that beauty is subjective! Things that I might not find attractive, someone else adores. And vice versa. It means there truly is someone out there for everyone, because there’s no ‘mold’ to fill. No one perfect person who everyone is attracted to.

You say I’m stupid to love myself. You know what I think is stupid? The fact that we live in a world that makes money off of making people hate themselves. The fact that companies study exactly what it is that makes people insecure and create advertising campaigns promising to ‘fix’ what’s not wrong to begin with. Because the problem isn’t my body, or your body, or anyone’s body. (or face/hair/skin/makeup choices, etc.) The problem is the perception of myself, yourself, ourselves, that we are expected to have. There’s this false illusion that there’s some perfection that we can attain. That if we diet just enough, wear just the right shade of lipstick, pick the correct pair of jeans, we’ll be popular and everyone will fawn over us. But it’s not real.

The biggest fuck you that you can give, to anyone who calls you ugly, fat, a stick, four eyes, any racial slur, any slur against your sexuality, your political beliefs, your physical appearance, is to love yourself regardless. These people live to see you fall. It frustrates them when the things they say don’t get to you. They win when you’re affected. This goes for anyone who treats you like less than you deserve. Friends, family, boyfriends, girlfriends, random people on the street, at school, or online. Just because someone says something negative to you, it does NOT make it true. And even if it IS true, it doesn’t take away from your beauty.

Do not let the opinions of other people define you.

Do not let your own demons win. Because those voices telling you you’re not enough? They’re wrong.

Any time someone out there has a negative opinion of you? Let them have it. Don’t feel the need to fight it. To prove it wrong. To sling an insult back. Smile, move on, and be happy. Because they’re the one with the negativity. Not you. That in itself is beautiful.

The following tips have been recommended to help reduce fatigue and increase serotonin levels:

Natural alternatives to antidepressants.

  • Getting adequate, regular, and consistent amounts of sleep each night
  • Eating a healthy, well-balanced diet and drinking plenty of water throughout the day
  • Exercising regularly
  • Learning better ways to relax, such as yoga or meditation
  • Maintaining a reasonable work and personal schedule
  • Changing your stressful circumstances, if possible
  • Taking a multivitamin, particularly one with tryptophan, which contributes to serotonin levels
  • Steering clear of alcohol, nicotine, and drugs
  • Getting more exposure to sunshine
  • Thinking positively!

(If you have been feeling seriously depressed for more that three weeks, or are thinking about suicide: talk to someone you trust, and also, go see your doctor and get a physical exam.)

(Source: goaskalice.columbia.edu)

maddersahatter:

Nothing is impossible….

except a crosseyed Cyclops!

(Source: graysonwasgroovy)

findingthinagain:

Just sent an email to the new OVU head coach with my goals for the year.

And now I’m feeling extremely motivated.

All of my coaches have had me talking and thinking about goals and priorities lately, and I must say it’s been really good for me. Focusing on your goals and remembering your true priorities can really help your self-discipline.

(Source: queerbits)

A Good Guide To Life:

lopez-g-rodriguez:

less TV, more reading
less shopping, more outdoors
less clutter, more space
less rush, more slowness
less consuming, more creating
less junk, more real food
less busywork, more impact
less driving, more walking
less noise, more solitude
less focus on the future, more on the present
less work, more play
less worry, more smiles

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